Decluttering Rules: 10 Things NOT to Do When Decluttering

I definitely don’t believe there are any hard and fast decluttering rules that are guaranteed to work for everybody, all the time. But I do believe there are some things you can do, or avoid doing, to make the whole process of decluttering your home easier and less painful.

In today’s post, I’m sharing 10 “decluttering rules” or guidelines I’ve found helpful to follow while decluttering. In my experience, following these decluttering rules can help you declutter faster, easier and more effectively.

Breaking these decluttering rules often makes decluttering harder, take longer and be more frustrating. Use these decluttering rules to help you avoid some common decluttering mistakes and roadblocks.

Here are 10 decluttering rules to help make decluttering faster and easier!

10 things NOT to do when decluttering:

Decluttering Rule #1: Don’t bite off more than you can chew

Sometimes you start decluttering full of excitement and enthusiasm to clear the clutter. But try to do too much, too fast and end up feeling burnt out, tired, overwhelmed and frustrated.

Instead, try breaking your decluttering jobs down into smaller projects. For example, instead of trying to declutter a whole room at once, tackle one drawer, one shelf or one area at a time.

You can always keep going and do more if you get on a decluttering roll. But by focusing on one small decluttering task at a time, you can avoid trying to declutter the whole room at once, taking everything out, then burning out and leaving yourself with a bigger mess than you started with!

Decluttering Rule #2: Not having a goal

Decluttering isn’t easy. It likely took years to accumulate all the stuff in your house, it’s going to take time and effort to declutter it. Having a goal or a reason why you’re decluttering is such an important way to keep you motivated to declutter.

Spend a few minutes thinking about why you want to declutter. Do you want more time? Do you want to feel more peaceful in your home? Maybe you want to spend less time cleaning?

Whatever it is, get clear with yourself what your “why” is. Whenever you feel frustrated, unmotivated or simply like giving up, come back to your goal and your why. Remind yourself exactly why decluttering will be worth the work.

Decluttering Rule #3: Don’t talk yourself into keeping things

If you try hard enough, you can probably convince yourself to keep just about anything. You might think you could use it someday, should keep it just in case, or feel guilty for letting it go.

But if you want to be successful in decluttering your home, keep your goal in mind. Focus on clearing the clutter, not thinking of all the possible ways you could or should use an item.

If you’re struggling to let go of items because they are still in good condition or could be useful, remind yourself that you aren’t using them. Even though it is useful, it’s not useful to you.

Decluttering Rule #4: Not finishing the job

Don’t forget to finish the job before you end your decluttering session. If you let your donate, toss and/or sell piles sit around too long, there’s a good chance they’ll get spread back out all over the house, undoing all of your hard work!

If you are decluttering in small chunks of time and won’t be running to the donation center after each decluttering session, set aside a holding zone for the stuff you’re getting rid of. Make sure it’s somewhat out of sight to avoid you or someone else in your house second-guessing your decluttering decisions before you can donate it.

Then, plan times to drop off donations and stick to them. Throw out any garbage right away. And give yourself deadlines to get things you’re selling listed and donated if they don’t sell.

Decluttering Rule #5: Don’t declutter someone else’s stuff

When you’re decluttering, it can be tempting to get rid of stuff that belongs to other people in your family. Maybe you know they don’t use it, but getting rid of someone else’s stuff without their permission is usually not a good idea. Often, it can make them feel resentful or even make them hold on to their stuff tighter.

Instead, focus on decluttering your own stuff first. Lead by example and show your family the benefits of living with less.

It’s fine to gently encourage your family to declutter, or even offer to help, but don’t push too hard or just get rid of their stuff.

Decluttering Rule #6: Don’t focus on what you’re getting rid of, focus on what you’re keeping

Sometimes when all of your focus is on what you’re getting rid of decluttering can feel like deprivation instead of freedom.

Shift your mindset and focus on what you’re choosing to keep instead. Think about how you will be able to use, enjoy, and appreciate the things that add value to your life when they aren’t buried in clutter.

Instead of thinking about how much you’re getting rid of, all the money you spent, etc., think about what you’re gaining by decluttering. You’re giving yourself more time, space, energy and freedom every time you remove another piece of clutter from your home.

Decluttering Rule #7: Don’t organize before you declutter

Decluttering and organizing are not the same things! Just remember that organized clutter is still clutter, and will continue adding stress to your life.

Instead, focus on decluttering first. Then, only after you have thoroughly decluttered, find ways to organize what you’re keeping.

Avoid buying any organizational systems, bins, baskets, etc., until after you’ve decluttered. Not only are bins and baskets a great way to hide clutter and encourage you to keep more than you need. But often these organizational tools end up adding more “stuff” and clutter to your home!

Decluttering Rule #8: Don’t get sidetracked cleaning & putting stuff away

One of the quickest ways to derail a decluttering session is getting sidetracked by cleaning or putting stuff away.

As you’re decluttering, remind yourself what you want to be doing. Your goal is to clear the clutter, not clean or tidy. Set aside a different time to clean the space you’re decluttering and focus on clearing the clutter instead.

A great way to avoid using your decluttering time to put stuff away is having a box or basket beside you to fill with things that belong somewhere else in your house. As you come across things that belong somewhere else, put them in the basket and put them away once you’re done decluttering.

Decluttering Rule #9: Don’t think decluttering is a one-time event

Most people need to do multiple rounds of decluttering before they reach a place where they feel like they have the right amount of stuff in their homes.

For one thing, you get better at decluttering the more you do it. And for another, you are usually willing and able to let go of more and more stuff the more you declutter. Especially as you start living with the benefits of a clutter-free home and realize you don’t miss the stuff you got rid of!

Not only that but your home isn’t a museum. You live there, use your stuff, make messes, bring new stuff home, no longer need or use some stuff, etc. Having a clutter-free home requires ongoing maintenance to keep it that way.

The good news is, the less stuff you have in your home, the easier your home is to maintain and keep tidy, organized and clutter-free!

Decluttering Rule #10: Don’t aim for perfection

When you’re decluttering it’s important to have realistic expectations for yourself and your home. It’s easy to look on Pinterest or Instagram and see pictures of beautifully organized spaces with matching containers and color coordinated everything. If that’s how your home looks, good for you!

But sometimes it’s important to remind yourself that good enough is good enough.

Aim to have a home that’s functional for you and easy to maintain. How it looks is less important than how it functions. Do what works for you and keep your expectations realistic. Decluttering isn’t about achieving a magazine-worthy home, it’s about simplifying your life!

Decluttering rules to simplify your life

I hope these decluttering rules help make decluttering easier for you. No one “right” way to declutter exists. But, learning from someone else’s mistakes of what not to do can help you avoid hitting the same stumbling blocks.

Use the decluttering rules that make sense for you, ignore the ones that don’t and clear the clutter so you can have more time, space, energy and freedom to enjoy the things that matter most to you!

Do you have any decluttering rules you’ve found helpful as you declutter? Share them in the comments below!

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This is a guest post by Melissa Russell of Simple Lionheart Life. Melissa simplified her own home and life almost a decade ago and loved the results! She is now passionate about inspiring and encouraging others—and providing them with practical advice—on their decluttering journey. You can also find her on Instagram.